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Because this book is pretty inline with the idea that "men are from mars and women are from venus" which is complete horseshit. He is an easy target for jokes because he smiles and takes it, never thinking of defending himself because he is afraid of conflict, thinking that if he just plays along, he will be liked. When society became urbanized this took men away from the home and left boys to be raised by their mothers. And while most of us make an effort to get along with everyone, some people, often men in particular, tend to try too hard to be nice.
You’ll also see them in the guy who never says “no” to anyone and has absolutely no time for himself, and in the man who lets people walk all over him because he doesn’t want to rock the boat. I know it's not an instant fix, but already I feel much better about the direction my life isgoing, and things seem easier when I'mnot trying to make everything "Perfect". Even without being asked, Nice Guys often try to fix other people’s problems, regardless of the type or severity. The French print translation is entitled, “ Trop Gentil Pour Être Heureux: Le Syndrome du Chic Type.The universal trait: everything a Nice Guy does or says is at some level calculated to gain someone’s approval or avoid disapproval; and that someone is often a woman. And unless you make it so, nobody else is going to do it for you; you are responsible for what’s happening to you, and you need to start taking actions if you want good things to come your way.
They are trying to avoid conflict, trying to hide their own flaws and mistakes and repressing their feelings. When my friend Mike told me about this book, I thought that the title seemed a little bit ridiculous.According to the author, in addition to believing that they were responsible for or unworthy of their 'needs' (which in some examples are quite less than needs, strictly speaking), these children were chastised for any behavior which went against the inclinations or desires of their authority figures, and subconsciously make the connection that it is this disappointment that they have caused that is responsible for their not 'getting their needs met in a timely, judicious manner' (the phrase is used several times verbatim), despite this not necessarily being the case at all. Sexual dysfunction — lack of desire, inability to get or maintain an erection, or premature ejaculation.
Robert Glover, there are many men who “believe that if they are‘good’ and do everything ‘right,’ they will be loved, get their needs met, and have a problem-free life. It provides a practical and emotional understanding of the problems that many Nice Guys face, and it lays out a series of easy-to-follow exercises for overcoming those issues. Since they don’t want to ask what they actually want explicitly, Nice Guys frequently resort to manipulation when trying to get their needs met. The righteousness of the end aside, the book is devoid of all scientific information and analysis, and the means employed are nothing beyond the basic usage of the will and the mind. On the outside they can appear to have everything, a decent job, a nice home, a good family, but underneath it all these males are falling apart.Surrender allows recovering Nice Guys to see each life experience as a "gift" from the universe to stimulate growth, healing and learning. I was soamazedabout the book I bought it in kindle and paper (this one I'm going to share it with a friend who is a nice guy too! As a result, together with trying to please others, caretake, as well as likewise anticipate demands, Nice Individuals protect against conflict like the pester. The "Nice Guy" utilize manipulation and covert contracts to achieve what he wants, rather than being direct and properly articulating his needs. You’ll see them in your relative who lets his wife run the show or in your buddy who’s always there for everyone though his life is in shambles.
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