Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships

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Loving a single person more than anyone else is possible, but that doesn’t align your sex drive to only be aroused by that person. Similarly, just because an affair is exciting, that doesn’t make it true love. Christopher Ryan caused a whole lot of trouble with this one in 2010, but he also got a lot of people to think. Women’s sexuality seems to be more fluid, however, as they were aroused by a much bigger variety of images, for example even monkeys having sex. Sentence-Summary: Sex at Dawnchallenges conventional views on sex by diving deep into our ancestors’ sexual history and the rise of monogamy, thus prompting us to rethink our understanding of what sex and relationships should really feel and be like. The switch from our ancestors’ sexual “sharing is caring” mentality in their hunter-gatherer-tribes occurred once we started to settle down and farm our own food.

Maybe the most important point of the book is this: Don’t take sex so seriously, see it as the biological impulse it is and respect that your sometimes odd sexual behavior is a remnant of the past.Have you ever considered that you are most likely to read books whose message you already agree with? For example, The 4-Hour Workweekwas right what I wanted to hear, and I’m assuming that’s a big part of the reason why I read it in the first place. Lccn 2009045457 Ocr tesseract 5.0.0-1-g862e Ocr_detected_lang en Ocr_detected_lang_conf 1.0000 Ocr_detected_script Latin Ocr_detected_script_conf 0.9686 Ocr_module_version 0.0.15 Ocr_parameters -l eng Old_pallet IA-NS-1200397 Openlibrary_edition

Interestingly, when asked to describe their arousal, the majority of the women in the study played it down. Further proof that our society encourages women to be less sexual and that the expectationis for them to be prudish. Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2022-04-30 06:07:39 Associated-names Jethá, Cacilda Autocrop_version 0.0.12_books-20220331-0.2 Bookplateleaf 0002 Boxid IA40455124 Camera Sony Alpha-A6300 (Control) Collection_set printdisabled External-identifier My wife and I have been married for more than 10 years, but recently our sex drives have gone in different directions. My desire to have sex with her is increasing, but this is not reciprocated. She has said we can have sex only at the weekend, but that it should not be planned as she prefers spontaneity. Given that we have two children with lots of hobbies and activities, as well as our own interests, the opportunities for even planned sex are limited . I find myself getting tense at the thought of no intimacy and it can feel quite stressful as the weekend progresses. Any suggestion that we could do it on a weekday is immediately rejected. I love my wife deeply and find her even more attractive than when we met. But this situation is very difficult and I am not prepared to have an unsatisfying sex life for ever . Those who had more land, or a bigger farm, were more prosperous. The tendency to try and own as much as possible brought out greed and jealousy in humans. Interesting? Yes. Weird? Hell yeah. But interesting nonetheless. Especially because there’s also scientific research to show our bodies have evolved for monogamy.

The only way tomake sure was to get a woman to stay with him, which ended up in public scrutiny of women who had sex with different partners, violence against women and, of course, marriage. Lesson 2: Women want sex just as much as men, but they are conditioned to play it down. Simultaneously to the creation of marriage and the family,the notion arose that women’s libido is lower than men’s. Can we stop acting as if not dying is an option? Listen carefully, and you'll hear people say things like, "If I die, I want it to be painless." If? There is no "if" about it.

Since Darwin's day, we've been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. But this narrative is collapsing. Here, renegade thinkers Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá, while debunking almost everything we "know" about sex, offer a bold alternative explanation. Ryan and Jethá's central contention is that human beings evolved in egalitarian groups that shared food, child care, and, often, sexual partners. Weaving together convergent, frequently overlooked evidence from anthropology, archaeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality, the authors show how far from human nature monogamy really is. With intelligence, humor, and wonder, Ryan and Jethá show how our promiscuous past haunts our struggles over monogamy, sexual orientation, and family dynamics. Human beings everywhere and in every era have confronted the same familiar, intimate situations in surprisingly different ways. The authors expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity.--From publisher description Niklas Göke is an author and writer whose work has attracted tens of millions of readers to date. He is also the founder and CEO of Four Minute Books, a collection of over 1,000 free book summaries teaching readers 3 valuable lessons in just 4 minutes each. I also suggest you read the summary of this book first, because the topic is very controversial. It’s worth investigating a bit, before taking the plunge. Who would I recommend the Sex At Dawn summary to?People want to know if their attraction for people other than their partner is a flaw in their wiring. Before we’d just eat whatever we find, and thus naturally have a high variety of foods and nutrients. But once we started mass producing the same few things, we took a toll on our health.